I was home sick from work yesterday, which meant a lot of laying on the couch and watching tv. No, I don’t have Ebola, I have a cold. I discovered that daytime tv, even with a million channels, is really boring.
I also discovered that the big news is no longer Ebola. Apparently, even though it’s still ravaging countries in eastern Africa, we Americans have moved on to bigger and better things.
The big topic of conversation? Renee Zellweger’s face. She looks a little different. Possibly plastic surgery, possibly Botox, but either way, the big discussion was how she has destroyed her face, how she no longer looks like herself, etc.
Now obviously, this woman has put herself out there for people to see, and on some level, that does invite criticism on her looks. But why can’t we just leave well enough alone? She doesn’t look bad. Sure, she doesn’t look like her younger, more youthful self, but who among us does?
The Hollywood obsession with age is really disturbing, and we don’t discuss it much. We talk about how thin celebrities and thin models show an unrealistic view of health and how that can be damaging. But we don’t discuss aging.
Guess what? People get older. And we get wrinkles and things sag. It happens. The alternative is not living to old age, and I don’t like that alternative. But with the Hollywood obsession with plastic surgery, we forget that people get wrinkles at a young age. I’m 33 and have lines around my eyes. Do I think I’m too young for them? Absolutely. Am I too young for them? Clearly not, since there they are.
In general, I’m not a huge fan of cosmetic surgery. The idea of a face lift terrifies me. I don’t know the details, but I’m pretty sure they peel your face off and put it back on tighter. Eeek.
Of course, if you are terribly unhappy with a part of your face and want it changed, I’m not going to argue with you. I will suggest you not make yourself look different. A friend of mine had what everyone will agree was a large nose. And she went in for surgery. I supported her decision, but was worried. And when she came out, I was so relieved to see that she looked like herself. She just had a bit of a bump on the bridge of her nose shaved down. She still has a large nose, but it’s just slightly less prominent. She looks like herself and she’s much happier with what she sees in the mirror.
But everyone ages. Everyone gets fine lines and wrinkles. We should just accept it and age gracefully.
And maybe, just maybe, we should stop being so critical of celebrities. Sure, they put themselves out there. But maybe in judging them, we’re also hurting ourselves.