A couple of years ago, I learned about “fatlogic,” and I fell in love with the idea. Fatlogic has a lot of different definitions (it’s a fake word made up by the internet, what do you expect?), but the one that really resonates with me is that fatlogic is when you use weight or size to justify something.
“I’m fat, so it doesn’t matter how I dress, I’ll never look good.”
“I can’t run because I’m fat.”
“I’m too fat to ever fit in with that group.”
I feel like I’ve been seeing it more and more, and idiots on the internet definitely don’t help. And yes, there are times when your size can be a reason you can’t do something (theme park rides with small seats, some sort of activity with a weight limit, etc), you can’t let your weight or size become an excuse.
I have seen time and time again where people (men and women alike) say that they can’t ride a bike because they’re too fat. While I suppose there is a size where you can’t ride a bike, I think most of these people are using it as an excuse. Maybe they are too scared to ride. Maybe they don’t want to be seen in public riding. Maybe they think they’re going to fall. Maybe they just don’t want to be the fat person on the bike. But that doesn’t mean they can’t do it.
Go to a bike shop. Find a bike that fits you and your body. Go ride. There are plenty of friendly people out there of all sizes who are out riding. (And besides, the heavier you are, the faster you go downhill, which is super fun. Thank you, gravity.)
I know that I have definitely felt like I’m too big to be riding my tri bike. I refused to get aero bars for my road bike because I thought I would look like an idiot with my belly all in the way. And no, I’m certainly not the most aero rider, but that has to do both with my size and my general lack of flexibility. And yet there I am, riding a tri bike. And I’m getting faster on it too.
Maybe you just want to go to the pool, but are afraid to be the fat person at the pool. Go to the pool. Just show up. If you go during lap swim hours, you will see your super fit swimmers there, but you will also see people of all shapes and sizes. (If you go to my pool, I believe the average age of the swimmers is approximately 68, and that’s including when the high school swim team is there.) No one actually cares what you look like because they’re not looking at you. I’m not going to avoid sharing a lap lane with someone because of their size (unless it’s super tall butterfly guy, and that’s just because he doesn’t understand that he can’t swim butterfly while splitting a lane without hitting me EVERY SINGLE LENGTH. Ahem.).
You weight isn’t a reason to not do something. And if you’re not happy with your weight, do something to change it. But don’t let your weight hold you back, and certainly don’t say “Oh, I won’t do that until I’ve lost a bit more weight.” You don’t know what you’re missing out on.